Shanghai Massage Tipping & Etiquette Guide 2026
Coming from countries where tipping is expected, many visitors wonder about massage etiquette in Shanghai. This guide covers everything from tipping customs to communication, dress codes, and cultural norms—so you can relax without worrying about social missteps.
Tipping in Shanghai: The Short Answer
Unlike Western countries, China does not have a tipping culture. Service charges are included in the price. Your therapist is paid a fair wage, and prices are all-inclusive.
The Details
- Local spas and massage centers: No tipping expected
- Hotel spas: Service charge usually included; small tip appreciated but never required
- Outcall services: Same price as quoted; no additional tip expected
If You Really Want to Show Appreciation
If you had an exceptional experience and want to express gratitude:
- A sincere "thank you" (谢谢, xièxie) is genuinely appreciated
- Rebook with the same therapist - requesting them by name
- Leave a positive review - this helps the business significantly
- Refer friends - word-of-mouth is highly valued
If you insist on tipping cash, 50-100 CNY is generous. But truly, it's not expected.
Before Your Session
What to Wear
- Hotel outcall: You'll change into provided disposable underwear or undress to your comfort level
- Studio visit: Comfortable, easy-to-remove clothing
- Jewelry: Remove watches, rings, necklaces before session
Hygiene
- Shower beforehand if possible (especially for evening sessions after a long day)
- Clean feet - particularly for reflexology or full-body massage
- No strong perfume - some therapists are sensitive
Timing
- Arrive on time for in-call appointments
- Be ready when therapist arrives for outcall
- Late arrivals may shorten your session (next client is scheduled)
During Your Session
Privacy and Draping
Professional massage always uses proper draping. Only the area being worked on is exposed. You control your comfort level:
- You can keep underwear on if preferred
- Disposable underwear is provided for oil massages
- Speak up if you feel uncomfortable at any point
Pressure Feedback
Your therapist wants to provide the right pressure. Don't suffer in silence:
- Too hard: Say "轻一点" (qīng yīdiǎn) - "lighter please"
- Want more: Say "重一点" (zhòng yīdiǎn) - "harder please"
- Pain: Say "痛" (tòng) - "pain/hurts"
Conversation
- Silence is fine - you don't need to make small talk
- Close your eyes - helps you relax deeper
- Phone off - unless you're expecting an urgent call
Communication Tips
Useful Phrases
| English | Chinese | Pinyin |
|---|---|---|
| Lighter please | 轻一点 | qīng yīdiǎn |
| Harder please | 重一点 | zhòng yīdiǎn |
| That hurts | 痛 | tòng |
| Focus on shoulders | 肩膀重点 | jiānbǎng zhòngdiǎn |
| Focus on back | 背部重点 | bèibù zhòngdiǎn |
| Very good | 很好 | hěn hǎo |
| Thank you | 谢谢 | xièxie |
For English-Speaking Therapists
If communication is important to you, request an English-speaking therapist when booking. See our English-Speaking Therapist Guide for details.
Cancellation Etiquette
- 24+ hours notice: No issue, full refund/reschedule
- 2-24 hours notice: Courteous, usually accommodated
- Under 2 hours: May affect future booking priority
- No-show: Very poor form; therapist has traveled to you
If you must cancel last-minute, a quick WhatsApp message is appreciated. We understand plans change.
Cultural Notes
Respect Boundaries
Professional massage is therapeutic. Any inappropriate requests or behavior will result in immediate session termination without refund.
Photography
Do not photograph therapists without explicit permission. This is considered disrespectful.
Alcohol
Being intoxicated is not recommended before massage. It affects your pain perception and can lead to an uncomfortable session. Light drinking is fine; being drunk is not.
FAQ
Should I tip if the therapist was exceptional?
A tip is welcome but never expected. The best ways to show appreciation: rebook with the same therapist, leave a review, or refer friends.
Is it rude to fall asleep during massage?
Absolutely not! Falling asleep is a sign of deep relaxation and is taken as a compliment by therapists.
What if I need to use the bathroom during the session?
Just let your therapist know. A short break is completely normal and expected.
Can I request a male or female therapist?
Yes, most services accommodate gender preferences. Mention this when booking.
What if I have an injury or health condition?
Always inform your therapist before the session. This includes recent surgeries, pregnancy, skin conditions, or chronic pain. They will adjust techniques accordingly.
Questions about etiquette or booking? Message us on WhatsApp - we're happy to help first-time visitors feel comfortable.